I remember so distinctly how people found it so remarkable that Io, was a “deep” person, that I was able to converse about “big” things (as opposed to small talk). Why am I remembering this now? It’s because of Facebook; or what I see in my timeline all day.
Perhaps even more than updates on what people are doing, eating, watching… people are posting “wisdom” quotes; things that are, to me, worth consideration and conversation.
However, the way they are shared is so matter-of-fact, as if the truths are self-evident; and maybe self-congratulatory.
Is this a case of “shallow people becoming deep” with age and experience?
No, not at all. I seriously doubt this.
What I think is that people never talk about these things with real people. They never would say to another person over drinks or coffee,
“Integrity is not something you show others. It is how you talk and act behind their back.” My non-negotiable and should be yours too!
(just a quick peek at my timeline as of this writing)
People don’t have casual conversations like that. But what’s happening is that there is mass, casual, sermonizing on Facebook. Conversations about these things, in my experience, are messy. They invite sharing of particulars; they invite challenging of one’s own life. I find that conversations like this are incredibly vitalizing and wonderful, but I don’t believe that most people, have had a lifetime of engaging in these conversations.
Since they don’t know how to initiate these things with friends, or even more exciting, new acquaintances (what a great way to get to know people), their only recourse is to post these platitudes on Facebook, unreflected-upon; un-considered; undiscussed.
I may or may not be a “deep” person; but I do enjoy having personal, penetrating, and real conversations with people. My thinking is that this is why I, and many people who I know that have such conversations with people, don’t post such “wisdom” quotes on our Facebook walls.